Bringing up ADHD with your doctor can feel intimidating—especially if you’re not sure how to describe what you’re experiencing. You might worry about being dismissed, judged, or told “everyone feels that way.” These fears are valid, and you’re not alone.
Here’s a gentle guide to help you prepare for the conversation, even if you don’t have the “right words.”
1. Start with What You’re Noticing
You don’t need to use clinical language. Just describe in honest words what’s been hard for you. For example:
- “I lose track of time constantly, even when I’m trying to focus.”
- “I feel overwhelmed by small tasks and can’t seem to get started.”
- “I’ve always struggled with organization, but it’s starting to affect my work.”
- “I forget things all the time, even when I write them down.”
These are real experiences—and they matter.
2. Share How It’s Impacting Your Life
Doctors are trained to look for functional impairment. That means: how are these challenges affecting your day-to-day life?
You might recall:
- “I’ve missed deadlines even when I’m trying my best.”
- “I feel anxious all the time because I’m worried I’ll forget something.”
- “I’ve had jobs where I was let go because I couldn’t keep up.”
- “I’m exhausted from masking and trying to stay organized.”
Even if you’ve developed coping strategies, it’s okay to say they’re no longer working. It's also important that your provider understands your coping strategies and masking techniques.
3. Mention Your History
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, which means symptoms usually start in childhood. You don’t need perfect records—just share what you remember:
- “I was always daydreaming in class.”
- “Teachers said I had potential but didn’t apply myself.”
- “I struggled with time management in university.”
- “I’ve always felt different from my peers.”
4. It’s Okay to Say “I’m Not Sure”
You don’t need to walk in with a diagnosis. You can simply say:
- “I’ve been reading about ADHD and some things really resonate.”
- “I’m not sure if this is ADHD, but I’d like to explore it.”
- “I’m struggling and I want to understand why.”
This opens the door for your doctor to ask questions and guide the process.
5. Prepare for Mixed Responses
Some doctors are very familiar with adult ADHD. Others may not be. If your concerns are dismissed, you can say:
- “I understand ADHD can be complex. I’d still like to explore this further.”
- “Would you be open to referring me for an assessment?”
- “Can we look at other possibilities together?”
You deserve to be heard. If needed, you can seek care from a provider who specializes in ADHD assessments—like our Nurse Practitioners at Sparrow ADHD & Wellness.
6. You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
If you’re feeling unsure, we’re here to help. Our virtual ADHD assessments are designed to be:
- Trauma-informed
- Inclusive
- Collaborative
We take time to listen, clarify, and support you—whether you’re ready to pursue a diagnosis or just want to explore your symptoms.
You don’t need perfect words to ask for help. You just need to start the conversation.
If you’d like to learn more about our assessment process, or reach out anytime.
